2021 is the reset we’ve all been craving from a tough year — I have reflections and wishes for 2021. I’m hopeful it will be a good year primarily because of the mindset shifts 2020 offered. The last two weeks of 2020, I tried to sit and think about all that happened. I looked through old photos and found When I think about the year, the struggles pop up to mind. But when I look back at my memories, I find so many enjoyable moments.
My friend, Joanna, also shared a great quote with me that put things in perspective.
- Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard.
- Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard.
- Being in debt is hard. Being financially responsible is hard. Choose your hard.
- Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard.
It rings true, right? I recently read Emily’s post appropriately entitled Hindsight is 2020. It felt spot on and so real. Primarily how it was the first time that we all looked around and thought what have we become? I’d like to say I was disappointed in us, but that just means I was naive to everything that’s been going on. While there was so much hurt in 2020, there were so many silver linings.
We grew closer to family.
Family became everything to us. After 2 months of being alone, we only saw family. They helped us so much with Emmie. She’s always loved her grandparents, but I know a silver lining to 2020 is how strong of a bond Emmie made with each of her grandparents. She saw them at least once a month if not more.
We appreciated friends in a new way.
We didn’t see many friends last year. Maybe a handful all year? I feel like I learned who my true, close friends are by who got creative to keep relationships going. While it was/is challenging, it was also nice. I feel comfortable now in prioritizing those who matter from texts, FaceTimes, and doorway drop-offs whereas pre-2020 I’d be forcing to keep relationships going. Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to see people in 2021, but I also feel like I have a better grasp on what’s important to me now. It reminds me a lot of what I wrote about when I turned 30.
I realized I can’t do it all.
Oh, this was a big one for me. 2020 was a smack in the face of what your survival mechanisms look like. We simply can’t do it all and have to let go of perfection. 2020 was a great lesson in what really matters. How quickly ‘over the top’ behaviors go out the window. As I was thinking about my reflections and wishes for 2021, a lot of it is about going back to basics. Appreciating the little things. Not asking for too much and being grateful when I get something.
I *finally* found a business partner.
I am so glad I found Jessie! Matt and my mom always pushed me on whether or not I need a business partner since I founded my business back in 2015. Inside, I’ve always craved one but didn’t know if it would be in the cards. Enter Jessie. She is the yin to my yang. Jessie is great at keeping me grounded. Her strengths are my weaknesses and vice versa, which is super helpful when running a business. She’s also great at leveling up when I tend to try to take it all on. Her creativity is unmatched and I’m excited to see where we take things.
Plus, building a business during a pandemic is no joke. Between the kids at home, economic concerns, and more, it means so much to have a partner that gets it. Someone you can turn to who makes you smile, makes you enjoy the craziest days, and understands if and when you’re down.
The Herrmannitos fell in love with the water
I’ve always loved the water. It’s my happy place and why I loved living in the Gold Coast neighborhood for years. Matt’s appreciated the water, but when he discovered Gillison Beach in Wilmette this year, he fell in love. Even better, Emmie is obsessed. It feels like this unspoken bond we share and escaping to the beach in Wilmette has become a special place for our family. It’s always been a dream of mine to live by the water and with these two falling in love with it too, it feels like even more of a possibility someday.
My focus for 2021 — reflections and wishes
Ask for what I need and take it
Don’t hate me for it — I love Mondays. Having a good, productive Monday seriously changes my week. So, I’m planning to take Mondays for myself. We’ve had a cobbled & clunky approach to childcare, but it works because we see Emmie more. Our nanny comes until 1 pm every day, which means we get her when she was up from her nap. So, Matt and I often tag team Emmie, which is great family time but cuts both of our days short. I’ve learned having those 2 extra hours to get work done is important sometimes.
Matt, being the great partner that he is, is going to take Mondays. Our nanny comes all day Tuesdays, and then I’ll take Wednesdays. That means I have Mondays and Tuesdays to really get work done, which is super exciting!
Outsource is the name of the game
When I thought about my reflections and wishes, outsourcing came to mind. I do too much. Most women do. Instead of quietly suffering, I’m outsourcing what I don’t want to do. I recognize it’s a privilege to do so, but I also hustled my ass off the last 5 years to get to a place where I can do that.
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Connect with people outside of social media
This has been on my mind for the last few years. Honestly, ever since I became more active on Instagram, I noticed people stopped connecting with me in real life as much because they see me every day. While social media is a great way to see snippets of peoples’ lives, it’s the highlight reel. It’s all curated to tell a story
Set monthly goals and stick to them
This one is different than what you think… I have workaholic tendencies. I love, love, love to achieve. It’s a blessing and a curse. What 2020 made me realize is how my overachievements hinder me from practicing contentment in the moment. So, I’m setting my monthly goals and sticking to them — not going above and beyond every time.
If you made it this far, you’re a loyal reader and I appreciate you! xx
Affectionately known to her friends as Millennial Martha for her love of DIY and decorating, Jen can’t help but pour her heart + soul into everything she touches. She’s loved to entertain since acquiring a table and chairs, and giving gifts is one of her favorite hobbies. Jen is the creator of Girl Meets Party. Her dream is to share her passions with the world in hopes to inspire others by making the seemingly unattainable attainable.